My needs are simple! The unabridged list...

I cant sleep, so Im gonna lull myself back to bed with sugar plums dancing in my head ;)  When it comes to living well, I dont think I ask for much (then again, what girl ever thinks she wants too much!)  Im listing this by major goals, ongoing goals, and like to haves.

Major Goals

• College tuition & books - Im just starting school to major in Biology and go into forensic science.
• Implants - Too bad for guys who like au natural... I want dangerous curves!  
• Own a condo - Ive lived in both a house and condo, and much prefer condo living.  I want all the amenities inside, restaurants and nitelife right outside my door, and a place I can call my very own.
• $20k in savings - Peace of mind that Ill never be left in a bind and can take care of things for awhile if ever the moment calls for it.

Ongoing Goals

• Weekly flowers - I love fresh cut flowers, just having a beautiful bouquet on my dining table makes me feel amazing and it smells wonderful! I do it once a month or so, but it would be lovely to wake up to fresh flowers everyday.
• Spa membership - I pay for this on my own right now, but sometimes I have to miss a month or so.  I prefer the spa to a regular gym because I love the atmosphere. Its calm and serene, the pool and view is gorgeous and everything smells wonderful.  Plus I can always get a massage after my workout. Its like getting a couple hours of vacation whenever I want!
• Spa treatments - Its so rare I get the massage and facials that I want (and need!) but when I can, I do, but Id love to be able to do this at least once a month.
• Mani/pedi - Right now I go once a month and keep up on my own in-between, but Id much prefer to be able to go at least twice a month, or do polish changes whenever Id like.  Its not *that* expensive, but it does add up.
• Salon visits - I do my own hair right now, but Id love to be able to get it professionally styled and taken care of. 
• Social life spending money - I love to go out, but for the most part limited to happy hour or ladies nite because my budget just cant handle South Beach full price! Yes if we head to a bar theres usually some guy who will pick up the tab, but we have amazing restaurants here that Id like to go to, or to just be able spend time with the girls and have a drink outside of the club scene.

Like to have

• Macbook Pro - Im still in PC land and tired of hearing everyone talk about how much they love their Mac, I want my own!
• Redecorate my home - Both kiddo and I need new bedroom furniture, and I would love to be able to buy some nice artwork and decorative touches for around my whole home. 
•  Shopping money! -  Im not a fanatic about it, the most expensive shoes I own are about $200. I do have some major labels, Im not really focused on that.  Im happy as long as its well made and I look great in it!  Besides, nothing makes a crappy day better like new clothes and shoes..hah!
• New bikes for both my daughter and I - I have one really crappy bike.  It would be nice to have a couple good quality bikes and a bike rack so that we can hit the trails on a smooth ride in style.

Beauty...health and fitness...style...education...home...did I cover all the bases? Well, thats all I can think of right now.  See? My needs are simple!!!

The Websites....And Beyond

Last week I joined a few sites not really knowing what to expect.  I had been on a few sugardaddy personals sites a few years ago, and though it seems to still be all the same sites and they havnt changed much, one thing I did notice is now women have to pay to read/receive emails whereas before that wasnt the case and they were free to us. Minority rules I suppose!  I set up my profiles and waited a week to see if I got any emails and also to take some time to research which ones would be worth a paid membership with. 

From reading through blogs, it seems there are ladies who have had some success with WealthyMen.com and EstablishedMen.com.... but in the past week, Ive had 2 profile views on WM, 7 on EM, and no emails. Not too inspiring. SeekingArrangment.com wasnt much better.. 14 views and no emails, but I keep hearing rave reviews from the Sb's that I decided to just take the plunge and see how it goes at least for a month.  I also joined up with SugarDaddyForMe.com and SugarDaddie.com, both of which I received quite a few emails to follow up on.

By the way, I loaded up and used a prepaid card for my memberships, I used GreenDot. I read too many complaints about SD4ME in particular continuing to charge membership for months after someone requested their account be canceled.  Im not taking any chances with the money I do have!

Since I didnt get any emails on SA I set to sending some out.  I only sent them out to guys who were local, didnt have requirements I dont fit into, didnt say they were looking for a travel partner (since I cant travel right now), didnt focus on sexual or mention play for play, have logged in the last 6 months, and were premium so that I know they paid and can reply.  If they werent premium, Id just put them in my favorites/hotlist to let em know Im interested in case they end up joining.  No sense in writing out tons of emails that wont get read! That left me with a whole 5 people to write to on SA.  Im going to have to search again, cause dang...I live in South Florida....theres no way its that sparse down here!  SA seems to be the staple of so many Sb's I kinda feel like Im missing something here!

On SD4Me I replied to 8 of the emails I got....the 9th one was from a male sugarbaby in Wisconsin or something? Strange....deleted.  On SD I replied to the 4 emails I got and have already heard back from 3 of them. Oh Lord! Now part of my reply was always asking them what they are looking to provide and want out of a relationship like this, and I also let them know what it is Im looking for.

DoctorZivago - Replied by telling me "I will provide housing with me, utilities and groceries." I let him know Im not looking for a move in arrangement, to which he says he never asked me to move in.  O_o

CoolJazz - He kept avoiding my questions and pushing for pics, to meet, for my measurements...rediculous.  I wrote him off as daft and tell him I dont know why he wont answer my questions but sure he has his reasons, and then I wished him well in his search. His reply to that was precious..."Because I am the dominant ONE! I ask the questions!!! Not you!!! You are now DISMISSED!!"  Not only do I think he's daft, but I now I also get the feeling he lives in his mothers basement and sleeps in star trek pajama pants....Aye!

The other guy replied by asking for my number to talk.... I asked him again to let me know what hes looking for and willing to provide and no response as of yet. Not holding my breath though...doesnt even make sense to think Im going to give up contact info right away without knowing a single thing about him.  Meh.

Im feeling dubious and dont plan to make online personals my only source.  Im sure there are legit guys on there and going to give it a good shot for the next month during my memberships. I think this is a really good time too since school is now going back into session, theyre all coming back from whatever summer trips, extended family time and such.  I do want to go out...see and be seen so to speak, and be able to meet guys in person. 

The online convenience of being able to say right upfront what you want wont be able to happen in person, but then again, I did meet a potential SD here that could maybe become more interesting if I can manage to get over my shyness in asking for anything.  One day I was pumping gas when he drove up to me and asked my name, and literally the next day we were on his yacht sipping champagne....Ill call him Jovial cause this guy really is like a tiny bundle of happy energy.  Ill tell you about him in another blog...

Im full force ahead right now though, thats for sure!

Blog Stalking

I found a sugarbaby's blog here on blogspot, and from there followed links of blogs she follows, and then blogs they follow, until I was trapped lost in the world of sugar blogs comparable to my former wiki addiction (I go to look up one thing....hours later Ive followed links to so many other pages Im bursting with more info I can handle!)

There really are some amazing blogs out there though, with tips, experiences and musings... Its so wonderful to know Im not alone, at least in how I feel about going back into this, what I want out of this and what I can offer in return.

Its saddening to read so many blogs that ended on a low note, unable to find an SD and the months of silence telling the story that they have moved on.  But its encouraging to read the total opposite...those with a steady or long-term SD, or several even...as well as those actively meeting potential SDs. 

There were many blogs I wanted to comment on, but too eager to read what more they had to say throughout the rest of their blog, or clicking on a commenters note and end up reading their blog...  This is how I found some blogs of SD's as well.  Its great to see the view from the other side, and also their take on some of the SB's blog posts.  I will come around to commenting and hopefully getting to know others and get, maybe even whenever possible give support and encouragement.

The Lawyer

Im really lucky to have The Lawyer. We've never met in person (we found each other online over 4 years ago) but we do talk a few times a month and keep up to date on whats going on in each others lives.  He's really sweet I have to say, it doesnt matter what its for or how much I need, he always sends me to western union to pick up number 500.

I never have to ask...he just knows its a huge help and hes happy to do it. Just this morning he sent me a wu transfer, and now Ill be able to go school shopping for kiddo, get groceries, and still have enough done to get my nails done and go out tonight =)

I will not bet on it that I would ever find a guy like him again if we were to part ways. After so many years, he knows Im not just in it for the money, we have a real interest in each other. I have the feeling that part of what makes this work is the mystery, and meeting each other would change the dynamics of what we have going.

Even though hed like to see me in person, he totally understands how I feel about it and is very happy to keep things they way they are, because it works so well for both of us. Maybe it would be different if either of us was willing to move, but we are destined to be long distance and so it remains. Its a shame too, because from his photos, he is an incredibly good looking guy...damness!!

If I found a local guy like him who I could share a closer more intimate relationship, I would be a very happy girl. Of course if I find more guys like him, I would be happy with that too!!

My Quest

I'm at the point of my life where Im (somewhat) fresh out of a long-term relationship, and undecided if I want to be in something serious for now. What my heart is set on is concentrating on being a mother and going back to school, all the same, it would be great to have a man by my side who supports my goals.

Ive grown accustomed to a certain kind of man... My ex, Diablo (Ill explain that at some point!) warned me that he would spoil me so mercilessly I would be ruined for any other man.  He certainly did what he set out to do! I want to be thought of, wined and dined, spoiled and taken care of...ideally by a man who, for whatever reason, also feels he cannot devote himself to a serious relationship right now.

I did a search for SD/SB relationships and blogs and I came across Jess Bunny. I loved reading her blog, it started out so amazingly telling the story of her man X, how the relationship progressed, when it came to an end, an how her life after X turned around after their breakup. That really got me to thinking about my own situation and how fortunate I have been.

Though my last two relationships ended on a pretty bad note, neither of them would stand for it if I was left in a bind. Jess Bunny is a good reminder that at my luck with them may run out at any time. I want a man in my life who is right here with and for me, enjoys being with me, wants what I have to offer...and happens to have the means to afford the lifestyle I grew to love and wants to share that with me. Thats what Im hoping to find!